As a relationship leaves what we know as the “honeymoon phase” both partners begin to feel less connected and more consumed with the “task” of being in a relationship. There is much to be said about the work and dedication it takes to keep a relationship or marriage connected and exciting. Remember above all,…
The truth about your fling is that when you first begin seeing them, they are everything you hope to find in a partner. This person is sweet, they spend time with you, they make it a point to take you out, and they even woo over some of your friends. They talk to you about…
A rut is defined as “a long deep track made by the repeated passages of the wheels of a vehicle.” A routine is defined as “a sequence of actions regularly followed.” A relationship routine is agreed upon and followed by both parties. A routine makes comfort and fun available to both parties. Routines include positive…
People sometimes use the phrase, “Why you aren’t meeting Mr.Right.” I don’t necessarily like that phrase because even if you are out meeting people in the dating pool, you are the only person who gets to decide if they are right or wrong. It is about finding Mr. or Mrs. Right for You. And if…
A recent article posted in the Telegraph reports that couples spend about ten days a year arguing about household chores. The article addresses common tiffs such as: leaving clothes around the house, not emptying the dishwasher, putting off home improvements, not taking out the trash, not making the bed, or leaving the toilet seat up. The article…
Whether you are in a long-term relationship or marriage, are just dating, or are seeking out a relationship; a relationship status is something you might be concerned with. To understand the application of this concept, let’s begin with a story. I was listening to a woman chatting with a friend the other day. It went…
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I understand that as a professional using my own experiences is not always the best practice. However, I insert personal stories when I feel that they will benefit the readers. The irony of this story, is just too good to leave out. Let me start from the beginning. I was in Oakland, CA for a…
We all have different expectations in a relationship. These expectations can come from different places. A reasonable expectation is understood with two different components: one partner vocalizing their expectation and the other partner either being capable or not capable of meeting that expectation. Early in a relationship, you learn what your partner is capable of.…
It takes the average adult 1.5 years to get to know someone. I mean to actually get to know someone. I am encouraged by this statistic, because it means that in our culture of impatience and overindulgence, we still have to let personal relationships develop over time. There is no fast-food drive thru to get…
What is the difference between compromise and collaboration in a relationship? Is one better than the other? Is there something we can do to make sure that we are not giving more than the other person in our relationship? Thank you to Dr. Kyle Weir for sparking my interest on this subject. The word compromise is…
