I recently attended the wedding of a great friend. This beautiful event was supported by a spectacular venue, decorations, and charming dresses. And most importantly, loving people. As the event began, the pastor took her spot under an elegant wood arch aligned with flowers. She opened with a speech to remind the audience, friends and family of our role in this matrimony. As we listened, we became confidants. As we watched the couple exchange vows, we became advocates for their happiness. We were not just gathered here to witness, but to become collaborators in the entirety of this marriage journey.
We are called to provide support, to help in times of struggle, heal in times of pain and celebrate in times of joy to those of our friends who include us in their special day. We have a part in this union and this family throughout the many years they remain married.
This, of course, got me thinking. I thought about all the people seated in the chairs beside me and standing near the couple. I thought about their journey and the importance of the role I was about to play in the lives of others.
Marriage is a time for happiness and celebration. But Marriage is most importantly a time when our selfish ways are put aside and we grow in love. Relationships that support the marriage are essential for that growth to happen.
As I continue to read books from leaders, mentors, and professional athletes, I learn that people need direction from different avenues and various people. We are all shaped by our families, our communities, our teachers, and our peers. We are all snapped by our relationships.
I have been to numerous weddings throughout the past 10 years, and I had to ask myself how have I continued to support those individuals and families?
When we put on suits and ties, pretty dresses and dazzling shoes, we are not just attending one event for that relationship, but we are asked to continue to provide support and understanding for the marriage journey and each of its partners.
I was moved by the pastor engaging the attendies in the discussion to support marriage in it’s longevity. Community is an intricate part of supporting marriages. We can not do this alone.
My name is Laurie Kjelstrom, M.A. I am a Marriage and Family Therapist Intern who is passionate about helping Marriages sustain happiness and helping families live healthy lives.
If you are in California, please call me today for a consultation: 714-747-4393
The Cynical Therapist came to be when two therapists became friends. SoulMates or Kindered Spirit Animals… Call us what you will…. We are two bad*** chics Licensed to teach you how to grow into your full potential and add some humor along the way.
Laurie Wilson and Elle Anzalone are both Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Huntington Beach, CA.