Finding peace is about exploring the world around us. It is about engaging in social relationships. It is about taking care of ourselves physically and mentally. It is a constant exploration of our world, our motivations, and our attachments. Here are some tips to begin that exploration:
- Understand that some people or things are not for you. Some people cause us harm. They hurt our feelings or don’t agree with our value system. Trenton Shelton said “Just because someone starts with you, doesn’t mean that they are going to finish with you.”
- Maintain Balance. When life gets overwhelming, you have to take a step back and check in with your mind, body, and spirit. Ask yourself what your motivation is for your actions. Explore where your uncomfortable stress may come from and find ways to lessen it.
- Find joy in the little things. Look for the good in people. Look for the joy in the little things. If you are looking for what is wrong in a person or thing, you will find it. Look with exploration and not judgement.
- Cultivate love. Build secure relationships and be willing to give. Stay through the uncomfortable parts and increase the happy memories. Leave any expectations at the door.
- Don’t hide from hurt. Don’t hide from your emotions. Allow yourself to feel them and then allow them to float on. We have to grieve before we can move forward appropriately.
- Play. You can not fully enjoy freedom until you have established discipline. This discipline helps us maintain healthy relationships, take care of ourselves physically and mentally, and to have clarity in our character. When you balance discipline and play, you will be on the right path to finding peace.
Remember to find peace it is important to take care of our body and mind. Finding peace is about learning how to maintain our emotional states and engage in the care we need to give to ourselves and others.
The Cynical Therapist came to be when two therapists became friends. SoulMates or Kindered Spirit Animals… Call us what you will…. We are two bad*** chics Licensed to teach you how to grow into your full potential and add some humor along the way.
Laurie Wilson and Elle Anzalone are both Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Huntington Beach, CA.