Which games should you play in a relationship and which should you avoid? Sometimes a little game playing can make a desired partner take notice of you. You should never play games that intentionally hurt or harm someone else, but letting the curiosity and chase happen in the beginning of a relationship is crucial. Also knowing when to implement it during a relationships’ lulls is important. Unfortunately, game playing is a deliberate part of being a male. As women, we can be more emotional and analytical, so it is important for us to consciously implore the right games at the right times.
Beginning Games – These are games that occur when the dating is taking place. Before the relationship is official.
Ignore. Give yourself a number of days to yourself. There is nothing wrong with waiting a couple of days to call someone who left their phone number for you.
Give a little. Everything in moderation. Give yourself time limits on dates. Hold hands, then hug, then kiss. Make this progression into a relationship last so you can learn about your potential partner. You are in the stage that you could get over-excited and jump into the relationship head first.
Smile and Flirt. Don’t flirt with other people, because that can come off wrong. Flirt with your potential partner and smile always. You are so much more attractive when you are glowing. Light flirting can make anyone blush. This works especially well for women, because men like to be in “charge”. If you are the gorgeous girl in the room and all your attention is on him, he feels special. Flirting with everyone in the room makes you less desirable as a girlfriend.
Ignore some more. Make visits short and random. The person should be hitting you up to try to get some of your precious time. Being too available can be a turn off.
Implementing Games During the Relationship
If you feel like your partner is not being as attentive to you or you notice a certain change, then make some moves. If you feel something is different, then maybe it is. Wear a new outfit. Take a weekend away with friends. Bring some of the dating games back into the relationship. This will help bring the romance and newness back to the relationship. When we get in a relationship we tend to neglect some of the things we did before. It is amazing how making a small change can have your spouse looking at you again like they are meeting you for the first time.
The Cynical Therapist came to be when two therapists became friends. SoulMates or Kindered Spirit Animals… Call us what you will…. We are two bad*** chics Licensed to teach you how to grow into your full potential and add some humor along the way.
Laurie Wilson and Elle Anzalone are both Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Huntington Beach, CA.