The truth is you may just be spoiled by lust; maybe you walk away from every relationship when the initial flames die. Make sure that is not what you do time and time again. If that is not the case, maybe you have just outgrown your current relationship. But how can you know the difference? The difference will be in the levels. Your relationship becomes a constant lull; communication and interest will drop significantly.
If you are no longer satisfied in the relationship because you have changed or because you two have been growing apart, maybe it is time to walk away. Hanging onto a relationship that you are not invested in can make you act in ways of betrayal or hurt. It is better to listen to your heart than deny emotions that can later cause issues. To figure it out:
1. Spend some time alone. Spend enough time with yourself to think things through. Don’t let your current relationship or any possible love interest cloud your decision.
2. Think for yourself. Don’t let other people’s opinions influence your thoughts. Make it a priority to make the decision on your own.
3. Discover yourself. If you have hopped from relationship to relationship it is probably difficult to determine what you want. Before you get serious in any relationship make sure you know what you want in your own life. If you don’t, it may bring out feelings of resentment towards your partner later on.
The Cynical Therapist came to be when two therapists became friends. SoulMates or Kindered Spirit Animals… Call us what you will…. We are two bad*** chics Licensed to teach you how to grow into your full potential and add some humor along the way.
Laurie Wilson and Elle Anzalone are both Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Huntington Beach, CA.