Some recent articles have dismissed the ideas that monogamy is still good and possible. It is a good tradition, but also the possibility of it working lies strongly within the individuals in the relationship.
This practice is what sets humans apart from other animal species. As April Beyer points out, traditions are traditions because they work. Although animals can differ in their mating practices, nearly 90 percent of animals practice socially monogamy. This means that they live and practice a “family” life with two “adults” in a single living arrangement.
Mating systems used to be different, where as behavior was engaged in simply to stimulate reproductive success. Today the idea of monogamy is not only social acceptable but a successful marriage depends heavily on it. Some people qualify monogamy as a part of love that embodies certain moral and ethical practices. Whatever your reasoning is for considering monogamy to be an outdated tradition, I simply ask you to consult all the numerous books, articles, traditions, values, and reliable information on how monogamy is important in our culture.
Monogamy should not only be something we approach, but something we value and respect.
The Cynical Therapist came to be when two therapists became friends. SoulMates or Kindered Spirit Animals… Call us what you will…. We are two bad*** chics Licensed to teach you how to grow into your full potential and add some humor along the way.
Laurie Wilson and Elle Anzalone are both Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Huntington Beach, CA.